Mean Girls

Ever see the movie Mean Girls? If you have you know its straight from the classroom, if you haven't you must go rent it. If you have a preteen or teenage daughter watch this and you will see what they have to go through everyday. This is a sad reality and I hope for most girls this isn't their reality. Girls can be cruel. This is a fact. You have several different groups in school and always the perfect (In their eyes) group is always in charge. I would hate to be a teenager today. If you aren't in with the popular crowd than your life could be pretty miserable in school. Teens don't realize that the trauma that they put some kids through can really effect their adulthood. Everyone starts to try to find themselves at this age and desperately seek peer approval. Sad to say but some teens have died trying to gain the approval of their peers. If this mean girl group could be one of the less fortunate for one day they would truly change how they treat others.

When the unpopular kids can't fit in sometimes they resort to finding any group that will accept them. These kids will change to conform as a last ditch effort to belong. I have had the unfortunate experience as seeing this for myself. Straight A students become D students, happy kids become depressed kids, christians turn the other way, drugs, alcohol and sex become the most important thing so that they may fit in. Some of these kids don't really like who they are but they don't want to go back to being alone, some enjoy being able to mask their pain with these 3 evils. These poor kids are caught in a twister and some won't make it out alive.

How can we help these kids? They think that as parents we don't know what we are talking about. We want to ruin their fun, we are jealous because they have friends and are fitting in, we are to straight edge and just don't understand. I have tried to talk to my daughter and share my experiences with her but all I seem to get is the famous "eye roll". I try to get her to engage in activities with kids like herself but she turns into a member of the Mean Girl club.

Tell me please what are we suppose to do? My heart is breaking and I am scared for my daughters life. I see her spiraling out of control. Please comment with any helpful advice.

God Bless